Soulmates: Ancient Myths, Modern Beliefs, and Relationship Science

The idea of soulmates continues to attract interest in both cultural and scientific discussions, with research examining how these beliefs affect relationships. Psychological studies have explored whether viewing relationships as destined or as developed through effort influences satisfaction and commitment.

Historical accounts trace the soulmate concept to ancient sources, including Plato’s writings, which describe humans as once-whole beings separated and searching for their other half. Over time, this idea has persisted in various cultures and remains a topic in modern relationship research.

Contemporary psychological research has identified two main belief systems about relationships: destiny beliefs and growth beliefs. Destiny beliefs suggest that relationships are predetermined and meant to be, while growth beliefs focus on the idea that successful partnerships are built through ongoing effort and mutual support.

Studies have found that individuals who hold destiny beliefs may experience lower commitment after conflicts compared to those who view relationships as something to be developed. People with growth beliefs are more likely to stay committed even after disagreements, suggesting that their approach to challenges differs from those with destiny beliefs.

What the numbers show

• Nearly 60% of respondents in a 2021 YouGov poll said they believe in soulmates
• Research has not provided scientific proof of a single predestined soulmate
• Studies show people with soulmate beliefs report more relationship difficulties after conflict

Research also indicates that belief in a single predestined soulmate can create unrealistic expectations about how relationships should function. Psychologists have stated that these expectations may hinder satisfaction, especially when conflicts arise and are not easily resolved.

Further findings suggest that everyday thoughtful gestures, such as small acts of kindness, are rated by participants as more meaningful for long-term relationship satisfaction than grand romantic displays. This highlights the role of daily interactions in maintaining strong partnerships.

While many people continue to believe in the idea of soulmates, scientific studies have not found evidence supporting the existence of a single perfect match for each person. Instead, researchers have emphasized the importance of co-creating meaningful relationships through shared effort and understanding.

Overall, the concept of soulmates remains influential in popular culture, but psychological research points to the value of commitment, effort, and mutual care in building lasting relationships. These findings suggest that satisfaction in long-term partnerships is often shaped by everyday actions and realistic expectations rather than the search for a predestined connection.

* This article is based on publicly available information at the time of writing.